Being a mom is work enough. Yes, it’s wonderful and rewarding a lot of the time, but it’s an exceptional amount of work. And if you have an actual job on top of that – well, you are nothing short of a rockstar.
And that’s where the real difficulty comes in – trying to find the perfect balance between your work and home life. But it’s not only important for your friends and family that you do but for your own well-being. It’s vital that working moms find time for their family and friends (and themselves) to avoid burnout. Here’s what you can do to strike the balance:
Set up boundaries at work
Unfortunately, in many cases, being a female in the workplace is still a difficult challenge. It’s often as if women have to work twice as hard to get the same recognition of their male counterparts. But working moms need to set boundaries when it comes to the workplace so that you can spend some quality time with your family out of work hours.
Taking on more than you can handle – and often more than you should have to – puts added pressure on you and inevitably cuts into family time – either the actual hours or the quality of time spent with them. Working moms with more work equal working moms who are more tired and stressed.
Schedule times for your friends and family
This might sound like you’re treating your friends and family like a business meeting, but the reality for many working moms is that if they don’t put the time aside, it often just doesn’t happen and you and your family will be more like ships in the night than the close-knit family you probably are.
Every week, book out some time that is strictly reserved for family and friend time. And in the sense that you wouldn’t want to be late for, miss or cancel a business meeting, the same needs to apply to these ‘meetings’. Here are some ideas of what you can block out time for (and this way, you ensure that you have some awesome things to look forward to in your calendar):
- Sunday day trips or lunches with the family
- Book club (or something similar) with the girls on Wednesdays (or every second Wednesday)
- Dinner as a family 3-4 times a week (at least)
Whatever you do, make sure that you have adequate time with your friends and some proper quality time spent bonding with your family.
Don’t forget your partner
With so much on your plate – work, prioritising the children and any household chores – the first person that can get ‘forgotten’ is often your partner. This is something that working moms need to be very cognisant of. It’s really important to keep that person as a priority and make time for just the two of you.
When you are scheduling your week or month, make sure that you have put time aside for date nights. Plan these nights in advance to make sure you have a babysitter so that you can really embrace the time you have alone together. If you can manage it, see if you can even book a weekend away with them, while the children spend time with the grandparents. It’s important that you make time for your significant other to keep the romance alive.
Make time for 'me-time'
It’s wonderful to spend time with friends and family but sometimes even that can be tiring and exhausting. It’s crucial as working moms to be able to find just a little bit of time every day – even if it’s five minutes – to yourself.
Take a relaxing bath, read a book – whatever you love to do, make some time for it, and some time for you, and allow yourself to indulge in it for as long as you can, guilt-free. At the end of the day between looking after everyone and everything else, you need to look after yourself too.
If you are looking for more information on how to better find a balance between your job and your life at home, have a look at our guide: Finding a Work-family Balance. Or perhaps it’s just time to book you and your family a holiday to get away from it all. Our family-friendly Costa Blanca hotels are the best possible place to schedule some family bonding time. Contact us to make a booking today.